"A Single Gringa in Mexico" was all about Bekka's living in Mexico over 10 years in Ajijic, San Miguel de Allende and moving to Baja California. "Mexico A Sunny Place for Shady Men" is her latest book,about her 3 years living in Baja California: Ensenada, Puerto Nuevo, Rosarito and her move back to San Miguel de Allende. Both books are sold on Amazon as a ebook or paperback.
A Single Gringa in Mexico & Mexico a Sunny Place For Shadey Men.
One of my Vampire's in my life claimed that he owned the photographs I used on my covers of my two books so they were removed from Amazon while they investigated his absurd claim. He was proven wrong by the properties of the photographs. However, I made a new cover and combined the two books as one. Something I wanted to do anyway. If you are given a lemon make lemonade.
The new title is, "When Given an Avocado Make Guacamole," with both books within, with the same titles. The book is finished and up as a Kindle & a paperback. You can order the Kindle version via this link to read on your Kindle, laptop or Iphone.
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After Bling Bling
cowgirl's murder the sisterhood changed. At her memorial everyone came to
celebrate her life. In a letter to her
mother she had asked us to celebrate her life if she died, instead of mourning
her death. She had correctly feared that her ex-husband would kill her. She had
installed an alarm system and, bought a gun, but left her back door open for
her Chihuahua to go in and out all day. I kept suggesting to her that if he
came to kill her, he would come in the back door during the day. She said that
was impossible. I also suggested she keep the gun and the panic alarm with her
at all times. Well, what I warned her against is exactly what happened. He came
in the back door during daylight. Her gun and panic alarm were next to the bed
but she was in the office on the computer, uploading photos to Facebook. This
is why I know I would have saved her had I been there with her on this trip.
After the memorial, we all
promised that we would be even closer now. But instead we splintered into
separate groups, according to our reactions to her death and our different ways
of mourning. The inner circle remained, and we each had a alter to her in our
bedrooms with photos of her and us, Virgin
of Guadalupe candles burning 24/7,
and something personal of hers which for me was her makeup case she always took
on chick trips with me. She always insisted we take a photograph of us putting
makeup on in the morning, and I had to be wearing my curlers. One month later
all the candles burned out. Some of us healed at that moment, and some of us put their grief away on her birthday at a Sisterhood fellowship at the Sunset Lounge where her memorial was held. We all wrote down a
special memory of her and burned it in the candle. For me I wish it could have
been that easy. I left that fellowship feeling sad and alone.
Berkley and I were the strongest in the group,
and we had our strong arms around everyone else and went home alone each night
to cry after being brave all day. We threw ourselves into activities like
events for our Singles of San Miguel de
Allende group; planning speed dating, male auctions and pub crawls. It is
exactly at these moments in time, when you’re vulnerable, that vampires enter
your lives. That was the case for both of us.
I had thrown myself back into internet dating
as the last man I had met in San Miguel de Allende before she died was, as
usual, a 30 year old man who met me at Limerick’s.
He would not believe my age and was following me around like a sick puppy dog.
I told him the light was dim, so, of course, I looked younger. I had fun dancing
with him and enjoying the evening. But even his father, whom he was traveling
with, was younger than me.
As the night was ending, I knew from our
conversation where he was staying, so I asked him if he wanted a ride home. He
said he did. He probably imagined that I would come in with him. Instead, I
drove to my son’s house and rang the bell. When he came out, I introduced them.
He was so scared, he kept saying, "Oh my God, it is true and your son is
so big and look at those tattoos."
My son said to him, "Don’t worry; it is
fine come in and have a beer. I know my mother only too well and that nothing
is going to happen between you."
I knew that I would never be able to go back to
Texas after what had happened to our Bling Bling cowgirl. Every one of her family
and friends was afraid of her living in Mexico, but she was killed in Texas,
and I have heard numerous times from her friends and family that the police
could have prevented it but they didn’t. After her ex-husband had shot her several
times the police came. There was a restraining order against him. He answered
the door and said everything was all right. They heard her in the background
saying, "No, I am not." (A neighbor filmed this and put it on YouTube. It is no longer there.) He slammed the door, and she lay there for hours, shot in the
back and bleeding to death, before the police came in.
I got off of Match.com and joined POF.com
and started to search in California and Florida. I was lonely and grieving and
looking for someone to share my life with. That’s a vulnerable position to be
in, and disastrous if the wrong person enters your life at that time.
I remember telling my girlfriend Chicago in
Ajijic that I was joining POF.com and
she said, I would never join a site that is free and one of the questions is
whether you own a car. In thinking back I realized she was so right in making
that comment as every man I met on POF was down and out. So I moved on to
okcupid.com. It is as hard to get off of these sites as it is to cancel a
magazine subscription. I tried several times to get off, and I was still on. So
I finally posted a photo of the ugliest dog in the world as my profile photo
and downloaded porno photos from porno sites as my other photos and made an
outrageous profile and was thrown out.
For those of you who have never seen a profile
on a dating site. Here is one I put up recently. And remember, we all do what
we must to heal and go on with our lives, so please don’t judge me:
Bekkamx (You make a handle name & add
57 / F / Straight / Single
San Ysidro, California
5' 9" (1.75m).
Catholicism but not too serious about it
Aries and it’s fun to think about
My self-summary: Here I am on this dating site.
I have been on match, POF, tagged, Zoosk
and now this. It seems to be seriously lacking as it does not ask your weight,
hair color or eye color. And Long Term dating is the biggest relationship
choice. What about a long term relationship?
The long question and answer process to me
seems worthless. I am honest about my age-something that seems to me most are
not on dating sites–and my photos are recent. I am looking for a serious
relationship and final chapter of my life with an honest, fun, intelligent man
with whom I have friendship, lust & comfort, and who is brave. Is that too
much to ask? I live in Ensenada across the border from San Diego.
When I say I am looking for someone who is
brave, it is because I am tired of having to explain why I feel safer living in
Mexico as a single woman the last 12 years of my life. Or when will you be in
San Diego? Don't men travel anymore? I can move if I find the love of my life,
can or will you?
What I’m doing with my life:
I am living my life in such a way that when my
feet hit the floor each morning Satan shudders and says, “Oh, shit, she’s awake.”
I’m really good at:
Being an Independent pioneer woman in a expat
The first things people usually notice about
I appear to be a girlie girl, but I am, in
fact, a manly woman, who is very independent and a leader, which tends to scare
off men who are not the same. That I have a wicked sense of humor and even
enjoy being the center of the joke.
Book - Atlas
Shrugged, The Source, Aztec & most important The Four Agreements.
·Movies - romantic
·Music - blues and
old time rock & roll
·Food - Italian,
seafood, veggies, salads
·The six things I
could never do without:
·My 4 little
I moved to Mexico with my dogs and a carry-on
suitcase with my laptop. I sold everything else and started over 12 years ago.
I just moved from San Miguel de Allende, GTO to Ensenada, Baja California with my dogs, laptop and 6 suitcases as this time I kept all my
boots, leather jackets, purses, perfect wine glasses, wine opener, French press
& favorite coffee cups, and sold everything else.
I spend a lot of time thinking about:
What I will do when I grow up?
On a typical Friday night I am:
What is typical or normal? I
The most private thing I’m willing to admit:
I am an open book. Honest and
open; ask me anything
I’m looking for:
• Guys who like girls
• Ages 58-65
• Located anywhere
• Who are single
• For a long term relationship
You should message me if you’re brave, looking
younger than your years, tall, honest, intelligent, have a sense of humor, are
fun and are looking for a long term relationship. If you have read this far and
want to know more about me, read my blog. I am writing a new chapter each
night. Since it is a blog, read the last post first and go up as the most
recent blog is the last.